In the last two MenTalk sessions, we dive into the meaning of relationships and male identity beyond gender and orientation. The discussions opened up perspectives on how, in every relationship in life, the balance between masculine and feminine energies within each person plays a defining role.

In the “The Womanizer” episode, the discussion dissected how a man labeled as a ‘womanizer’ represents a form of imbalance. An excessive or uncontrolled masculinity usually leads to relationships centered around dominance, control, and self-centeredness without considering emotional needs and healthy boundaries. This is a call for every man to understand that, behind masculine strength, there is also a feminine energy that is sensitive, appreciative, and caring. This balance creates supportive relationships where both men and women can extend empathy and understanding.

Going further, "Hunting for Manliness" raised the issue of masculinity beyond sexual orientation. The session demonstrated that masculinity and femininity are two aspects outside the realm of gender or sexual orientation. Regardless of orientation, men can balance these energies in line with their principles, values, and mindset. It’s not about gender but rather how maturely a person can become assertive without losing gentleness or showing courage without ignoring empathy. Masculinity and femininity are aspects everyone possesses, not an opposing force. When balanced, masculinity and femininity form a whole self.

The main takeaway from these two sessions is that masculinity doesn’t always mean strength or domination, and femininity isn’t weakness or powerlessness. Everyone, in his or her life, needs to learn to balance these sides to become individuals who are not only strong and independent but also caring and sensitive. Ultimately, building healthy relationships starts with harmony within ourselves. MenTalk remains committed to being an open space for men to explore the true meaning of balance collectively.

We invite men to join future MenTalk sessions. Here, you will find an open space to share, listen, and learn from the experiences of others as we journey toward balancing masculinity and femininity. Together, we will explore relevant themes in everyday life, from relationships and identity to mental health. MenTalk is not merely a place to talk but a space for growth and discovering our best selves as caring, strong, and authentic men. Don’t miss the chance to be part of a community that prioritizes understanding and mutual support.

Marvel Zainuddin
Editor: Ari Budi

Proofread: Peter Heyes